We’ve seen in some recent Obama speeches about how his administration will once again value science, which, of course, is anathema to the the rapture-ready GOP base, as it tends to render most of the fucktard insane things they believe moot. Aside from all the nature stuff (global warming, forest management policy, etc.), hopefully another thing we’ll see change is this “abstinence only sex-ed” bullshit. Study after study has shown it simply doesn’t work. One (and only one) aspect of the abstinence-only nonsense we sometimes see are “virginity pledges”, that kids will promise to wait until marriage until taking the plunge in sharing each other’s bodily fluids from the nether-regions. “Fail” is an understatement, as the research shows:
STD rates were similar among all participants, regardless of whether they had taken a virginity pledge.
That might be partly explained by a few other findings. Condom use was similar among all participants at the most recent interview. But pledge-takers were less likely to have reported using a condom the first time they had sex.
The pledge-takers were also more likely to say they had oral or anal sex, but not vaginal sex. “Amongst those who have only oral sex and/or anal sex, pledgers are overrepresented,” say researchers.
Overall, nearly 3% of respondents reported oral sex with one or more partners but no vaginal sex. “Although just over 2% of nonpledgers fell into this group, 13% of consistent pledgers and 5% of inconsistent pledgers do,” write Bearman and Brückner. Still, that means most pledge-takers didn’t put themselves in those categories.
Similarly less than 1% of nonpledgers report anal but no vaginal sex compared with 1.2% of pledgers.
Apparently, ab-ed has at least convinced some kids you can take it in the ass and still be considered a “virgin”. Okay.
Of course, if you’re a dimwit like Katherine Lopez, you don’t let the facts get in the way, as she equivocates the abstinence-only failure with the failure of virginity pledges, makes a nod that it’s basically human nature to want to screw and then seems to blather on and on about character and the typical moralizing:
Abstinence has to be about saying “yes” to something in order to work. We need to focus on the idea kids can actually think, and should want more from a relationship than sex. We need to be open to programs that aren’t all about copulation, but about character education.
Teens who choose to fuck do not have character flaws for that sole reason, K-Lo. Okay, it’s certainly not the most dimwitted statement out there by a right-winger on the subject, but I’m using it as a jump-of point for discussion: namely that we need to challenge this idea that teen sex is inherently “wrong”. It’s not. Sure, teens do a lot of stupid things… they get pregnant, get others pregnant, do stupid things at parties that tarnish their reputations throughout their school life, but the whole point is there’s nothing “unnatural” about teens having sex. This is all more funny, considering how the right likes to get its panties in a wad about the “unnaturalness” of gay sex. If teens weren’t ever supposed to have sex, they wouldn’t hit puberty until they were in their twenties. I know plenty of gals and guys who had plenty of sex in high school, even the fun not-in-love variety, and they continue to have well-adjusted sex lives. Sure, some kids are not emotionally ready for it… and perhaps where the focus on rational sex-ed should change. Instead of having “no” be a default position, perhaps “are you ready?” should be where the education lies.
I know, I’m living in some sort of fantasy land here, because most parents don’t seem to be comfortable at all about the idea of thier kids having any sex at all. I’mnot a parent, but if I were, I think I’d probably still think what I do, because I don’t think sex has to be this end-all be-all thing that you only share with one person ever. How boring would that be?
K-Lo protests that conservatives don’t hate sex. Perhaps in some cases that may be true, but they certainly have a very narrow view of what circumstances sex is acceptable, namely “adult” and “married”. How unnatural.